Okay, clear as day, speak to me about your love-lives. Describe you and your partner, it's a good way to get to know each other and how your emotions are conveyed. 

Me and my girlfriend met 4 years ago at school. We both took French at a G.C.S.E level, and finished the course together - we also took English literature and language at an A-level. We also both finished the English course together. However, we started dating in April of this year (2016).
We started our friendship off in the French class, as both of us brought Pokémon related items to school. Hers was a pin/sticker or Pansear and mine was a key-chain of Pikachu. 

This led to a friendship that was quite close, and we became closer in our first year of A-levels, because her friends left for colleges and my friends did the same, so it was just me and her. We made new friends and we retained our closeness. Through the first year of A-levels, we had our first fight which lasted only a few hours, we were both having a bad day and I made a joke that was in my normal taste which led to an argument. This argument was over after a few hours and we retained our friendship. 

Everything was fine, and the year after, we began dating in April (Last year of A-levels in 2016)
We started dating by being at a party, me, her and our friends were all drinking and me and her were drunk and admitted to a lot of things. Then a few weeks go by and I invited her to my house and we spent the night together. Before we started drinking, she asked me out, and since then we've spent most every day together - until September when she joined Uni and I stayed at home.

Now, I'm looking for a full-time job to help pay for her university and to learn to drive, so I can visit her more often. 

Me and her are very similar in some aspects, and polar opposites in others. Which is good, as we can have lively debates about almost anything, because we'll both bring different views to the tables and discuss them. 

PK Axis : That sounds like a really healthy relationship! Well mine, started back in September of last year or so. He was my neighbor and I was out of a bad relationship. He would come to my house on a daily basis to talk and spend time with my ex and so a friendship started between him and I. When, I grew tired of putting up with my ex and decided he needed to leave my home, he was not having it and would not leave... well my now boyfriend stepped in and took charge for me and defended me as my ex was abusive. So, I struggled to get back up due to emotional distress and depression and he stood by my side through it all. It took months and I don't know how he managed to stick around when there were days I was just awful to him and wanted him to leave me alone and not come back yet he was always by my door. It was a very emotional way of getting to know each other and at the time he was going through a lot and was emotionally messed  up so I think in many ways I made it worst but, then other times it helped him get through his problems. His family didn't want him around me as they thought my problems were too much for him during that time.

I put in effort and things changed; it was great and so we started dating. Then, months later, I had to move to a new place which was the best thing that ever happened- we decided to move in together and have been living together ever since; his family loves me and I have a relationship with them and we have not had problems or fights in so long. We both work and pay bills and game together- we had to get a second Xbox because it was not happening lol I hate playing second player. But, it's been great, and we are accomplishing our goals together and we don't tell each other what to do- we trust and give space and are very open minded. He is German and I am Puerto Rican so naturally there is bound to be many differences; however, he lived in Panama with his dad's side of the family so  he has a lot of latino influence which has helped balance out cultural differences. For the most part, we agree on just about anything, but, if we don't we compromise fairly well. Except for Pizza- he keeps getting this nasty Hawaiian pizza which makes its way to my side which is pepperoni only. .

But, whether it works out or not, I am sure we will remain friends which sometimes  is the best thing you can get out of a relationship.

jlove92 : I'm sorry to hear your ex was like that, but I'm happy to hear you're away from him and happier now. It seems the worst part is the pizza   I understand though, because Hawaiian is the worst. Pineapple does not belong on pizza. 
If my relationship ends up like your new one, I would not be upset, it sounds lovely. Except, your cultural diversity isn't existent without mine, we're both English... But she's from London and lived in the north before coming to the south, and I remained in the south since birth - that's our biggest cultural diversity c':

I'm truly happy you have found a good relationship. It seems like it took a lot of struggle before you got there, so you deserve it! 

As much as I wish it wasn't, it's non-existent. 

PK Axis : In a way, I am glad it happened because I learned to not help those that don't help themselves and it pushed me closer to my family. 
Right?? EWW Pineaple on a Pizza who dare come up with such a thing? A piece of Pineapple always makes it to one of my slices and I bite into it and it just contaminates my pizza altogether -there's no getting rid of that awful taste lol

Thanks! I  hope it does happen for you! It sounds like you both are very supportive and that's awesome that you are helping her with her University! I think it will help you guys be closer and value each other more.

 I'd love to visit England and as much of Europe as I can- I love everything about it! 
How do you both keep in touch? 
It seems that in any place there's a difference between the north and south lol it's like a whole new world- what's the biggest difference between you both?


I think differences can also be positive if there's good communication and understanding. 

thing1 : Have you ever had one? Or any that you'd like to share? 

I don't want to pressure you into it, if you don't want to talk about it, don't. 
But if you don't mind sharing any, please, do. 
But, if you don't have any to share, I'm sorry for that, do you know of any reason why it might be? I'm willing to discuss it with you and help in anyway I can, if you'd like. But, if not, that's totally fine too. As said, I don't want to pressure you into anything.

PK Axis : I've been in relationships before, but they usually don't last more than a few weeks. Usually, it's because I'm "too nice", "not mean enough", I "don't hit them". Crazy stuff like that. 

And then there's the fact that I'm very firm in my beliefs and ways, and I'm not going to change dramatically just to make somebody happy. 

I think the reason I can't find a girlfriend in college is because I'm a 22, almost 23, year-old Freshman, with orange hair. You'd think my ladies man of a dog would help, but nope; he's a crap wing man. 

jlove92 : Well, at least you learn from your experiences! That's always an amazing thing to do, and a valuable trait some people lack!
Only sinners come up with pineapple on pizza. I'm not religious about anything, except for the pizza. Praise pizza!

I hope it does bring us closer, I want to do good by her and for her.

Well, Europe, currently, is in a bit of a state. I'd give it a little while before visiting, so we can have everything sorted out. 
But, when you do visit, you'll love it. The UK is in a huge divide right now, because of certain political events. But, removing politics, Europe is a beautiful continent. I strongly recommend a visit. 

We Skype a lot, and when she has holidays, she returns home. The next one is early December, so I get to see her again c:

Well, mine and her biggest difference, personally, is accent. She sounds American - everyone accuses her of being from the US. In all seriousness, me and her are one on too many issues, our division isn't on large issues. Pokémon and accents are the only two the spring to mind. 
But, with other Southerners and Northerners everything from politics to accents, it's amusing to see their pointless division. 


Honestly, differences make the world more educated. You can't all be a collective mind all the time, or you all become zombified. 
"A diverse mind negates a perverse world."
If you let the differences make you hate though, we get radicalised terrorists - we all know why that's not a good thing. Not to be too off-topic, an ending statement of: If people just thought more, the world would be so much better.

thing1 : Well, being nice isn't a bad thing, and don't let anyone make you believe otherwise. Kindness is fleeting in this world, and I don't want another person to be hurt to the point they 180, y'know? If they don't like you being nice to them, if they don't like you not hitting them, then there's something wrong with them and they're literally letting themselves be trapped in abuse ridden lives. It's not a nice thing, but it's just what they're letting themselves get into. 

Another good trait, remaining true to yourself allows a strong character, if they can't love you for you, they aren't who you need to be with.

Well, as said, don't change yourself for a partner or for anyone. But, going slower into things (Or faster, if you go slow already) may be a change to try, and see how that goes. If you "hide your hand" currently, you should "Lay your cards on the table" quicker, or vice versa. This way, you're not changing yourself, you're just opening yourself quicker/slower. Honestly, I am aware appearance is a major factor is relationships, but focusing purely on one feature is shallow - focusing solely on appearance at all is extremely shallow. But it is something that factors in. 

Well, a new wingman is always a good try ;D! Do you go out often - to parties, gatherings, general walks, etc? 

I'm not someone to quote others, but as much as I wish it wasn't, it's non-existent

I've never been in a relationship, to the point I've barely talked to girls. My extreme shyness is responsible for that, but it's not the only factor. The only thing close to love was a childish infatuation with a girl back when we were kids, to the point I once dreamed about me and her together, but like I said, it was a childish infatuation that I eventually lost as I grew up.

I have plans of at least trying to get someone to share my life, but of course they're on the lower tier of priorities because first and foremost I want to get a life to share. Due to my shyness, I may try "modern" methods of dating or at least chatting to break the ice. Not sure when will I get my priorities checked off since it doesn't depend entirely on me, though, and I'd also have to make sure I know what kind of girl I'm looking for because so far I haven't had a moment to think about it.

EX Palen : I don't want to imply anything here, but are you 100% sure your sexuality is heterosexual? Are you sure you're interested in female companionship? I don't want to imply or assume, because I'm sure you have thought about that much. 
But, is it possible, you may be bisexual/another sexuality? 

Well, the love life isn't important, with your life, it seems - not at this point in time. I 100% support you trying to create your own life before sharing it with another. It's probably the best thing you can do. After all, you can have a foundation to build a life together, if you have a life of your own. 

I advise to say away from dating sites, if that's what you meant by "modern methods" from what I've heard, they're filled with unpleasant people. 

Mine all sucked, they all ended randomly either by people disappearing or whatever.

PK Axis : I'm 300% sure I'm heterosexual. I don't need to think about it, really, I'm heavily attracted to girls, probably even a bit too much in my teen days.

Creating my own life before sharing it is just because of my age. It's come to a point where I want to ensure the future instead of saying "I'm looking for this" or "I'm waiting for that". I wouldn't worry about this if I was a bit younger, but time passes and there's no stopping it.

I've heard not so good things myself, but I don't care. The people who give that judgement have a different approach in life than I have, thus they can't understand me at a personal level. Plus, I just need a small chat to deem if that person is worthy of a date or not, I've come to learn many things about a person depending on how they type and more specially the vocabulary they use.

Squuueeee. A thread where I can talk about my boyfriend xD Totally haven't done this before

sonicthehedgehog57 : <3

So about 2 1/2 years ago, I met him on Vizzed.

Yes, this site your looking at right now.
Yes, the site with a ton of blue on it and a tiny bit of green.
Yes, the retro video game site that a ton of people play on.

I originally was speaking with

A user of this : Summoning you for no reason because its fun. And maybe I also want you to post here. For you know what reasons xD I know, I'm mean

on his profile. I dont remember exactly what we were talking about, but I do remember that Sonic was talking to him at the same time. And somewhere in the conversation between User and Sonic, I think they were talking about school subjects or something, Sonic was saying he liked English more. And me being me, I made a comment saying Math ruled. Since I have an easier time with Mathematics. Conversation went on from there on my profile, and afterwards we talked every day.

It wasnt until around 2 months later that the relationship started (Im thinking he'll post here. I dont know, but he has pictures of that while I lost my messages of it Dx)

We have a good bit in common <3 Probably more than we even realize. I love him so much. And. I dont know what else to put.

Fyredove : You and Sonic are so cute that it is actually sickening. :3

You guys are great together ^^

Well....my love/relationship interests have always been on/off with being amazing or just impure and pointless for reasons will explain below. I'd always been interested in girls more than guys both friend wise and love wise ever since was 3-4 years old (remember my mother telling me I would be at games with brother and would look at cheerleaders like: "NO!! I wanna stay and look at pretty girls!")

But main story starts when I was in Kindergarten and met this girl named Amber and after only about 1 week of knowing each other, was clear to us that would be best friends. She said I was most interesting/nicest guy she'd met as most kids/men she knew as friends or at school would always just pull on her hair, make fun of her, would rather hang out with guys/guy friends instead of hanging with her cause would be weird. Our friendship remained and in in 3rd grade she told me she had liked me ever since 1 year we knew each other, but didn't wanna say cause felt were both too young of age to have those feelings shared. I told her same and thought maybe could promise that if met again in Jr High/High School that would look into going out/being together (pinky promise/hugs/and all). Then learned towards end of 5th grade...that we were moving to Missouri (worst decision ever) and I had to tell her...she was of course very sad, as was I, and told me if could meet her at her house later that day. I said yes and did so after coming home from school, I walked towards her house (2 blocks or so away) and when got closer to house...I heard what sounded like faint gunshot....I ran quickly inside house and say her on floor dead with note beside saying "If my love if gone...I have no life to live" ...I held her and cried dearly as if I was one to kill her. <-- still haunts me to this day

After that...I didn't go out with anyone for YEARS after incident as didn't wanna hurt anyone and felt would need to keep promise...to help any girl or friend met from sorrow so that way wouldn't suffer same pain I did. Any love after that was fruitless/trivial since didn't last or was just like a white sheet between their words. One of which actually used me just to make their love interest jealous which worked (though figured wasn't true since we'd never met/talked much at all) the other I knew from jr high and went out with in high school but again...was pitiful as would always get angry at me for my health issues and say was stupid. Knew love wouldn't ever compare to what shared with Amber back then. Until....


I met a certain girl and though put on a smiling face for me, always seem inclined to tell me about stories of past or current events happening with them. Seemed like a cry for help that was trying to be shaded out as to not bother others, just like promised took care of and listen to her. Funny enough got same response from her as I did originally with Amber, "are one of nicest guys have met" followed by why are you being so nice to me? Told her it was because I want to care for you and seem very nice. To this day is one interaction I'll always remember fondly and love going back to every now and then. Why look back if is just one interaction and whom would that woman be? Reason is because I love talking to this friend and girl as will always be a part of my life no matter what now. Seeing her for for first time too was like a cauldron of beats inside and can't wait till can actually interact with her face to face. She is such a beautiful young woman in my eyes and no matter what will always be like a shooting star in my eyes skies. <3 She's one wish I could never have granted again, (yes, not even with star shaped balls) One gift I will always treasure, and one friend I'll always be with eternally...will still hold hands as have a white onion ring above our heads.

If can't tell <3 yes this woman Fyredove <3 still worry at times just like with 1st interest and others that followed if actually will be good enough for her, but things matter most to me. Is making her as happy as possibly can, take care of her and always listen to her feelings, watch over her and do anything can to help her out. Know are smarter/leaner guys could be interested in with even less issues than myself, but know I'll always love her no matter what happens. Are so many things we can connect on...gaming, ideals/feelings, and more could probably learn as go on. (know shy fits both of us). Know some may ask me if I am also bisexual like my love or love preference, and plain and simple hetrosexual/straight. (Though don't bash anyone's opinion or preference as long as don't enforce it on me or hate on mine/others) Though can act homosexual against friends of mine as a joke xD and did that in jr high when people would bug me got them the heck away. Not like act that way with any --->!!!"User"!!!<---- that you'd know on here though :/ .

This is just about it where relationships go for me, one thing do know is that these things can work out and once do is something very special to hold onto no matter what past or future that you'll experience.

I met my fiance about four years ago. At the time I was very depressed and frequented the local pubs alone. Sad, I know. One night I was heavily drunk when this guy appeared out of nowhere and asked if I wanted to continue the party with a small group elsewhere. He pointed towards a couple I hadn't seen before but I thought, why the heck not, they look like nice people. So I followed them and ended up having a blast! The guy who tried to make a move on me got tired pretty quickly because me and the girl kept talking about Ghibli movies and other anime. We bonded so quickly with the girl that she trusted me with her entire Akira manga-series which I read over Christmas holidays. She and her husband are still really close friends of mine.

After Christmas I got a call from her and she invited me to see a band downtown together with them. I went to their apartment feeling pretty carefree but when I got there they had also invited another friend of theirs. And he was so handsome, I couldn't believe my eyes! I got so nervous that I didn't even see him trying to shake my hand when we were introduced to each other (At the time my fiance-to-be thought I was being rude and couldn't care less about him, even though the situation was quite the opposite)

So the evening continued smoothly, but I didn't really have a chance to talk to the new guy. We were at the club when me and the girl were alone so I just asked her if Rami was single. She looked at me in shock for a second and burst into laughter. I didn't understand why at the time but Rami was really shy to the point that he didn't have much experience with women. I was 100% sure that he had a girlfriend but I was wrong. I could go on and on with this story but the short version is that we ended up together couple months later.

It really wasn't easy in the beginning. Rami was extremely nervous around me and super shy, so I did the talking and planning in the beginning. At one point I was going to give up since it started to feel like a pretty platonic relationship. But I'm glad that I didn't. Since then Rami has opened up a lot and he isn't so introverted anymore. His friends have also seen a positive change in him.

We did break up once but I still think it was for the best. We both had our problems and during the six months we were separated we had a chance to work on them. It was pretty rash but we got engaged six months after starting dating again, and six months after that we moved in together. But I think it has been a great decision since I'm the happiest when I'm with him. It's not perfect every day but I'd like to say it's nearly perfect. We've been engaged for nearly two years now. Even though we've lost the early spark there's in every new relationship, a crush has slowly developed into love, we still act like we just started dating. We cuddle and sweet talk each other every day and it really keeps the relationship going. Oh, and tickling is kind of our thing. We tickle each other like crazy and sometimes we could be rolling on the floor laughing from tickling each other. He's so cute when he gets ticklish.

Anyways what I'm most grateful for is that I've found a man whom I can be myself with. No need to hide anything and even though at times I can be a bit too much to handle, he never seems to get tired of me. We are two opposites, really. Where as he is really stable and steady I'm like a windmill. But I guess there's that saying that opposites attract one another, right?

sillysoul : That was so adorable it's almost sickening :') 

I'm glad your problems with the local pubs has gone, it really does sound like you two are a match made for each other. 
I hope you two are soon-to-be married and I hope we all get to see pictures of the wedding ! 

As much as I wish it wasn't, it's non-existent.  (Yeah, I'm original with words xP)

Really, the closest I ever got to a relationship was being friends with benefits with a guy I used to like, but even then, I had thought he at least like me in some way. Of course, this relationship went straight to hell after he told me we are just friends and he already has a girlfriend. Then there was another guy who I used to like that hates me just because he didn't like that I like him...

Yeah, my love life is great. Every guy I like either is taken or can't handle me =3=

Right now, it's not the best. We fight a lot, she's not speaking to me, and I've been spending the last few days entirely alone. I don't really feel loved at all, and it kind of f***ing sucks.

I've had great friends who have helped, but it's not the same, and I know they know that.

When things aren't bad, they are pretty excellent, but right now, the person I love most is making it very hard to love them.

But love is patient, and love is kind, and I know that if I continue to be myself, I'll be rewarded, one way or another, even if it isn't this person rewarding me.