Anonomous member hey.....

i gotta question.........is it true that the best guy to go out with are your bestfriends? coz if thats the case then i gotta problem...a BIG problem

HI do you remember what an "un-named" youth pastor told us not long ago.... the key to a great relationship is a solid foundation and an awesome friendship.

there is no love at all!!!!!!!

Again with the "What Is Love?"... And here I thought I answered it, but I didn't. Oddly, I just posted to my livejournal on this very subject, so forgive me if you know where my livejournal is and if you ever look at it.

John - Ever been in love before? Or think you have? What does love mean to you?
chain_gang_princess - wat is a true love?? i always think ive found 1 but i cant tell if they are.... Again ill say i hate the waiting game

There are 8 different types of Love, and sometimes they blend together. 8 places where people have been known to say that they love another human, and it's not all opposite-sex love (or even sex love at all). In fact, opposite-sex love is Lust and you should be ashamed of yourself. ;P

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Family-brand respect. (Philos) When you say you love your brothers and sisters, love your mother and father, and love your close friends, you are speaking of Philos.

Infatuation. (Ludus) When you say you love a girl or guy you've just met, or only known for less than a month, this is Ludus. It is probably the love that lasts the least amount of time, even less then the next one.

Attraction. (Libido) This is what a lot of people confuse for love, when they say that there is no love, or that love is just a biological process, your brain, your hormones, your body playing tricks on you. This is the love you have for someone you're making out with. Sex is Libido. Lust is Libido. But this is NOT against God's Sins. God knows that the only way we can have babies is through sex. It is only a sin if you practice lust in excess. Only a sin if you practice pride, gluttony, wrath in excess. That's what my preacher says at least, about "Why Lust is a sin, but why he makes men and women marry eachother"

Obsession. (Mania) When you are obsessed about your partner, can't go a single day without talking to them, build a shrine in their honor, or any combination of the three, then you are Maniacal. While you might call this Love, it is not TRUE love. True love is only a mix of all of these things.

Commitment. (Storge) is the Love you have for someone you're married to. The security in the fact that you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone. Capricorns feel this way WAY too easily. *hates his inner capricorn* Will you marry me?

Care (Pragmatism) This is the love you have for someone you care about and don't want to be harmed, want to see succeed in their life. It's not "True Love" necessarily, but then, none of these are really true love.

Admiration (Agape) is Unconditional Love. This is the love you have for someone, no matter what they do. This is the way God loves us, so says my preacher. =) (And it's the way we should love our brothers, our enemies, and even complete strangers and hippies. Otherwise Jesus will kill us violently when he comes back to the earth.)

Valentines day Love. (Eros) This is the closest to what people think "True Love" is, this is when you make puppydog eyes and kiss and cuddle with someone and feel warm and fuzzy.

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But Eros Alone is not really TRUE love unless you admire your kissy cuddly partner unconditionally, care about their welfare, are obsessed about them, infatuated with them, attracted TO them, and love them like a family member, and are committed to them unconditionally (Marriage without Divorce EVER).

THAT is true love. Sorry to disappoint you all.

"1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
-Corinthians 13:1-13
NIV

That sums it up pretty good

Love is not something that happens, it has to be built. I am in a relationship where i truely believe i am in love. It is a lot of work and commitment. It doesn't happen over night.

I like the bible quote too.

I reckon ya cant define love.
I reckon its the person that defines what love is,
how sad could ya be beleiving in a dictionary definition of love, or worse some big-shot that thinks they know all about everything.

Originally posted by chain_gang_princess

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I reckon ya cant define love.
I reckon its the person that defines what love is,
how sad could ya be beleiving in a dictionary definition of love, or worse some big-shot that thinks they know all about everything.

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Its really not a dictionary deffinition, and your ignorance is offending me.

I wouldn't doubt it if you didn't even read it. If you did read it you must be stupid, because you wouldn't have said that.

John she was merely saying she didn't think you could really define it because it's different for each person.

Thanks michael. thats exactly it.
And John to wat i sed i was refering 2 lowells "types of love"", i only briefly looked at ur post as i am already very familiar with that verse.