I live with both of my parents. I love them very much and I am very lucky to live with them both.

I spent most of my childhood with both. When I was 13 years old, we found out my dad had been cheating on my mom for years. He left, and we stayed with out mom. We tried to keep a relationship with our dad, but it took less than a year for him to decide we weren't worth it anymore. The last words I heard from him were on the phone. Those words were "F*** you. Bye." That was about 11 years ago.

It was neither for me.

My grandma raised me, so I had her as a parental figure growing up.

She did a good job to if I do say so myself

I was fortunate enough to grow up with both of my parents. Thankfully I still have them aroound too.

EvilAlu : If she did a good job raising you she was a parental figure it goes beyond a biological mother or father

I was raised by my mother. I did live with my dad for a couple years but as much as I loved him he just wasn't able to take care of anyone but himself and even that he had a hard time with...  

There is a lot of people here from divided households, it's quite sobering.

It's a shame this happens so much!

EvilAlu : That's even more surprising. But it's not a rare thing i guess. To raise a grandchild is a very big job; I'm glad you appreciate her like you do.

Battyo : It seems to be that many people can't really take care of themselves the best. But some kids don't understand this, they just get angry and never forgive their parents. Sad really.

I lived with Mom and dad but my dad is a truck driver so I do not see him as much as i want to though :/

Light Knight :
I have forgiven my father because I knew I had to play the parent when it came to him but it was hard and i understand why kids get mad. But it's one of those things that if you don't forgive when you get the chance you may never have the chance.. You don't want to regret that.

I lived with my mom but was always very close to dad, though I cant remember the time I would have ever lived under the same roof he did. To be honest I loved having two homes and two set of parents.

I alternated with my parents and now I still do.

Personally i was with raised by my mother.. and i'd like she did a good job.. I won't get into too much detail about my upbringing as it's information that i don't really tell others i don't know.. .

I know it's weird for me to withhold information about myself.. but this is one of those times... 

Either way... My mum is cool... my dad on the other hand is a bunch of words that are not allowed on the site.

rcarter2 :
Your story reminds me of my own.
when i was 10 my parrent devorced because my mother was cheating for years on my dad..
the saddest about it that my bigger sister knew about it al along. but she was forbidden to tell to my dad..
i hated my mother for years. i just can't fit it.. that parrents cheat while having growing childeren.. it destroys childhoods.
my dad wasn't sad about it.. my das and my mom had 2 totally different thoughs about life.. and my dad became islamic. while my mother still was atheist.
i'm myself are wel.. islamic.. i can't call it that.. but i do believe in god.
anyways.. i was sad about it for my sisters.. i knewed along what was happening anyways.. but also i couldn't tell it to my dad.. because i was not a 100% sure of it..
but my mother went to alot of trace shows.. and other shows with trance music.. and used alot of drugs etc.. she never remembered the night after...
my dad on the other side is still following the path of the islam. now with a islamic wife. she's really sweet. and her cooking skills are amazing lol.
my hatered toward my mother went down since the fact she's just human like us.. human makes mistakes... i can't blame my mother for being weak against lust.. everyone on this planet had something that she or he can't stop doing..
if its lust for sexual activity. or stealing.
if its greed for having alot of money and stealing from the poor.
or if its wraith of wanting to kill someone for reasons good or bad.
my mother was pretty much sucked in a own created word of happiness nothing in her world could be wrong. but everything ouside her world was wrong..
her main problems would be envy and lust.. she was really jelous and she could't candle a relationship since she liked to much stuff with other mans. i don't blame her for it.. this world is created to lose anyways.
sorry for the long post but just felt a bit conected
greetings, Yngwie

Both which I consider lucky I've met a lot of people who only grew up with one.

I life with both my actual mother and father.  I seem to always like my father a little more than my mother.  My mother is always hard on me while my father is always laid back.

Bintsy : Well I guess mine is a little of both worlds. My parents were together until I was twelve then they separated on and off for about five or six years after that before getting back together for good. During their split I stayed with my dad. The problem was I was put in the middle of the issue between them. As a result my world was flipped upside down and things went downhill for me when I was a teenager.

I went from being a perfect attendance student to a dropout pretty much after reaching high school. Many friendships I had from being real young became strained and in some cases broke off. I really slid downhill. I use to be outgoing and social but I eventually learned to be very reclusive and to not let people in too quickly. I do still have some friendships that lasted through all of that but those are what I consider to be true friends, while others basically proved to be acquaintances.

Even though my parents got back together it took a few years after that for me to get my wake-up call and to start trying to straighten my life out. I hold no anger toward my parents for anything that I went through. Some who have been in similar circumstances may feel justified in holding anger against their parents but I take full responsibility for what I went through and my shortcomings. I just wish I were more able to deal with things at the time. If I were I probably wouldn’t have slid as badly as I did but that’s something I blame myself for not them.

Although life is by no means perfect or content, it is better than where I was as a teenager/early adult. I still have some stuff that I want to correct from that period of my life. Hopefully I’ll get there and in the process be able to mend some fences with some friendships that I feel responsible for falling out.

The best advice I can give in regard to something like this is to not hold anger toward your parents if a breakup happens. Parents should also try to avoid having their children become part of the issue in the event of a breakup. It was an experience that I wish I didn’t have to go through but by the same token I feel now that had I not gone through that, I probably wouldn’t be the person I am today. I almost certainly wouldn’t be a writer. In all honesty I don’t know where I would be. There is still a part of me that wishes I could have a do over with that part of my life so I could avoid the mistakes I made. Even though I would really like that, I know it’s not realistic. The best thing I can do is to try as best as I can to correct the things that I can and be a better person.

I live with my mother, I neither know nor want to know my dad nor do I want to know any more about him than I already do because what little I have heard appauled me. It doesn't bother me that I don't have a father figure in my life, how could it when I have never had one to miss.