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MY MOM IS ANGRY WHEN I DONT WANNA TO GO TO CHRUCH HELP
08-07-16 11:30 AM
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I am not saying I hate Jesus I do believe in him. Some times I want to go to church sometimes I don't. Just earlier I told my mom I don't want to go to church. Because I got embarrassed at Church the other day because my mom said I wouldn't be still when this lady came around praying for use I just didn't wanna get in here way I felt like a villain or I was missing up the flow of the service and I felt like I was holding every one back cause every one was staring at me so the first lady had to take me out of the way and put me some where else and wait my turn. I got so embarrassed I started crying at home.Today its Sunday I don't really wanna go today I told my mom that and she got very angry. She yelled at me and started telling me I was disobedient and she told me find every scripture of disobedience in the bible and write it down intll she gets back at 1:00. Can you help me say anything to her please I do believe in Jesus I believe he died for us but every time when I try to bring something up she shouts be quite your being disobedient. Did I hurt her feelings? I'm not a bad kid by the way I'm 15. And she said she might beat me when she comes home (spank). P.S I couldn't dint know if there was a religion thread so I just choose family. P.S I couldn't dint know if there was a religion thread so I just choose family. |
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08-07-16 11:51 AM
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Does she pray everyday or multiple times a day/get overly offended by whenever something doesnt go with your/her beliefs? She doesnt seem very lax over not going to church so. It might be that she was taught from a very young age to always go to church and not to argue over it. It also might be that she doesnt want you to turn into that sterotypical teenager, all rebelious and stuff. There is no real fix for this other than to just go to church whether you want to or not. Sorry I can't be more help. Like, I dont affiliate with any religion because im not a huge fan of religion itself. Not that I don't respect what people worship, It's their life to follow what they do, who am I to say differently. But just SOME people get a lil TOO serious over it. Even going as far as breaking the rules of their own scripture of whatever book/rules they have along with the LAW so. If anyone wants to know why I'm like this, just ask my mother. She should give most of the story. Does she pray everyday or multiple times a day/get overly offended by whenever something doesnt go with your/her beliefs? She doesnt seem very lax over not going to church so. It might be that she was taught from a very young age to always go to church and not to argue over it. It also might be that she doesnt want you to turn into that sterotypical teenager, all rebelious and stuff. There is no real fix for this other than to just go to church whether you want to or not. Sorry I can't be more help. Like, I dont affiliate with any religion because im not a huge fan of religion itself. Not that I don't respect what people worship, It's their life to follow what they do, who am I to say differently. But just SOME people get a lil TOO serious over it. Even going as far as breaking the rules of their own scripture of whatever book/rules they have along with the LAW so. If anyone wants to know why I'm like this, just ask my mother. She should give most of the story. |
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08-07-16 12:08 PM
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You don't need to summon your self to reply man lol But your parents shouldn't force you to follow religion if you choose to not to. Yeah church is good and all, never actually went to church, but life is about you. Live your life man, don't let your mom tangle you up in a religion you have no interest in. Its honestly not fair. And if she decides to throw all your stuff away than oh well. Make a stand for yourself. She may be your mom, but forcing your child to be apart of a religion is wrong and oppressive. But your parents shouldn't force you to follow religion if you choose to not to. Yeah church is good and all, never actually went to church, but life is about you. Live your life man, don't let your mom tangle you up in a religion you have no interest in. Its honestly not fair. And if she decides to throw all your stuff away than oh well. Make a stand for yourself. She may be your mom, but forcing your child to be apart of a religion is wrong and oppressive. |
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08-07-16 01:22 PM
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First of all, I don't think it's right to force anyone to go to Church. I think your mother wants what's best for you, but she can't express it positively. If she maybe gave you positive reinforcement for going to Church, instead of negative reinforcement for not going to Church, it would serve both of you guys better. Anyways, if she keeps pestering you about, you should explain to her that God gave us all free will, and we can do whatever we choose. Explaining that to her not only will demonstrate that you have knowledge about God to your mother, but will respectfully tell her that you don't want to do it. If that doesn't work, I hate to say it, but you'll probably have to go to Church like your mom commands you to do. It's only another 2 and a half years until you can move out and basically do whatever you want regarding religion, so I wouldn't fret too much. I'm sorry that things have gotten physical, and that will probably just worsen your feelings about going to Church. Hope you can resolve this dude, and good luck! |
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08-07-16 03:44 PM
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rday pretty much summed up what I would say but I want to post in and still give in a little input. The worse thing for anyone is to be forced to do something. As you have explained you like god you don't have a problem going to church when you can or most of the time. I know what she is trying to do is what is best for you. If she looked into why you didn't go in the first place then she would understand. You had a very good reason to do what you did. Which doesn't make you a disobedient child ok? I'm a christian. I know I go to church most of the time, but there are times me and my mother don't go either due to being busy or sick. Maybe you should have her calm down and let her listen to your reasons as of why you did what you did. I just hope things can go well and she will listen to you. As for your stuff I think she is going way to far with that...... As for your stuff I think she is going way to far with that...... |
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08-07-16 07:05 PM
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That is a tough position she's putting you in and that's too bad.
I was raised Catholic and church was mandatory until we hit 16 years of age. Then we could decide to go or not. The thing about Jesus, and you can tell your mother, "Jesus is love," and there should be no spanking or beatings or hitting in the house. That's abuse and Jesus never said to hit other people or throw their stuff away. Here is a passage from Proverbs 16:9 for you if you like: "A man's heart deviseth his way, but the Lord directeth his steps." Tell her that you skipping Church is your call but God will still guide you as He sees fit. There's nothing wrong with Also, a priest once told me, "A man names James went to Mass every Sunday his entire life. When he died on his 80th year, he was rejected from the Pearly Gates of Heaven. He asked St. Peter, "Why is it I am not allowed entry? I was at Mass every Sunday?" St. Peter responded with, "You are not being rejected for what you did on Sunday. You're being rejected for what you did on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday." Tell your mother that an hour a day on Sunday doesn't mean you don't accept Jesus and he's in your heart. That's what matters, not attendance at a service. I was raised Catholic and church was mandatory until we hit 16 years of age. Then we could decide to go or not. The thing about Jesus, and you can tell your mother, "Jesus is love," and there should be no spanking or beatings or hitting in the house. That's abuse and Jesus never said to hit other people or throw their stuff away. Here is a passage from Proverbs 16:9 for you if you like: "A man's heart deviseth his way, but the Lord directeth his steps." Tell her that you skipping Church is your call but God will still guide you as He sees fit. There's nothing wrong with Also, a priest once told me, "A man names James went to Mass every Sunday his entire life. When he died on his 80th year, he was rejected from the Pearly Gates of Heaven. He asked St. Peter, "Why is it I am not allowed entry? I was at Mass every Sunday?" St. Peter responded with, "You are not being rejected for what you did on Sunday. You're being rejected for what you did on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday." Tell your mother that an hour a day on Sunday doesn't mean you don't accept Jesus and he's in your heart. That's what matters, not attendance at a service. |
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08-07-16 11:49 PM
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For 1 hour a week, I don't think it's worth all the trouble. I'd suggest just dealing with it passively: go to church if that's what she wants.
Deal with it until you are independent enough to move out of the house and not attend church anymore. Think of it as a compromise, you don't need to pray or sing inside the church if you don't want to, but accompany your mom if that's what makes her happy. Deal with it until you are independent enough to move out of the house and not attend church anymore. Think of it as a compromise, you don't need to pray or sing inside the church if you don't want to, but accompany your mom if that's what makes her happy. |
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It sounds like maybe your mom just lost her cool or something. I don't believe that you have to go to church every Sunday to be a good Christian. As long as you believe in God and the savior Jesus you are pretty much good in the eyes of the Lord. I'm fairly certain your mother knows this. Though fellowship in church is important and recognizing and keeping the sabbath holy is a commandment that doesn't translate into thou must attend church every time. Maybe she didn't believe your excuse and thought you were just trying to ditch. I would try explaining to her again and keep calm. Explain rationally your love for Jesus and fellowship and state the reason to her again about why you didn't want to go. If she still persists it might not be a bad idea to have a talk between u her and your pastor. |
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Do what I do, go to church and then when you are old enough and financially able enough to move out. Move out then either dont go to church ever again or go whenever you want. Arguing with people like her is pointless, nothing you say will change her. |
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I hate it when people take religion way to the extreme, and I'm afraid your mom is one of them (No offense though ). You should let her know that going to church is a choice: It is all up to you. You won't go to hell if you don't go. Like rday said, it is never right to force anyone to go to church. I find it sad honestly. Plus you have the right to believe WHATEVER you want (believe it or not, but some people believe in a spaghetti monster, and I respect them). Sorry, I'm not the best person when it comes to things like these :/. That's the best I can give you. So like I said, it is your choice, your decision, and don't let anyone stop you. Sorry, I'm not the best person when it comes to things like these :/. That's the best I can give you. So like I said, it is your choice, your decision, and don't let anyone stop you. |
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I'd say that the best thing to do in a situation like this is to tear her beliefs apart by telling just how many crazy stuff and contradictions the Bible (and any other holy book, really) has! Like, did you know that wearing clothes made of more than one material is considered sinning? Try telling that right as she's trying out some new clothes and see her reaction, hahahah!
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I'm gonna state it as it is: That's abuse. A lot of the world doesn't act as if it is, and it might not even be against the law of the land. But it's terribly wrong. You need to take a stand against that. Bear it patiently until you're in a position to teach against it (as stubborn parents who think they're right don't listen to their children's advice). I've found that often a child is wiser than his parents, because they are selfish and think that because God has given that child to them, that the child is theirs to do with as they please. That's not how life works. This life is a test. Parents are supposed to always care for their children, not to complain and hate on them. This doesn't mean they give in to their children's selfish demands or requests. But it does mean they should not take their anger out on their children, but to teach them to be selfless, as they should be, often by example. That's not what's happening here.
Pray about what to do. God cares for you, even if your mom or anybody at church does not. If you pray without wavering, He'll give you an answer, and you'll be able to recognize it (James 1:5-6). Set an example for your family. There's a saying that goes "the best way to defeat your enemy is to make them your friend". Now, you can't make someone be your friend. But you can offer your friendship continually, whether or not they choose to reject it. Let them know it will always be there if they want it. Honor your parents, even if they don't honor you. Find things you can like about them. You can accept them as they are but promote what they could be, should they make the right choices. Encourage them to make those choices however you can while making these sorts of choices yourself. Pray about what to do. God cares for you, even if your mom or anybody at church does not. If you pray without wavering, He'll give you an answer, and you'll be able to recognize it (James 1:5-6). Set an example for your family. There's a saying that goes "the best way to defeat your enemy is to make them your friend". Now, you can't make someone be your friend. But you can offer your friendship continually, whether or not they choose to reject it. Let them know it will always be there if they want it. Honor your parents, even if they don't honor you. Find things you can like about them. You can accept them as they are but promote what they could be, should they make the right choices. Encourage them to make those choices however you can while making these sorts of choices yourself. |
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Well Fangsonic, I cannot say that I went through what you are going thru now, yet I can't help but feel your pain. I may have an alternate solution for you that will give you and your mother some peace of mind. Why not talk to her about allowing you to go to a new church, one separate from hers. Perhaps then you can find a way to praise Him that your comfortable with, and where you don't have to worry about her always looking over your back? Just a thought. Got to say, I seriously respect your belief in the man upstairs. I myself was raised by a bonafide witch, yet even she made sure I went to at least some kind of church. Mum believed, just didn't serve, yet still knew that some form of spirituality was needed to make a better person out of us humans. Keep going to church, in this world it can be to easy to forget Him. I did after 18, and went nearly 10 years til He found me. Message me if you wish to talk more, I have plenty of time! |
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