I got kicked out of my house today.

Why?

I'm 18 years old, have been treated like I was 12, wasn't allowed to EVER leave the house even though my younger sibling could. When I signed up for Vizzed, that was me coming to terms with never being able to leave. Well the other day, my parents found that I had become a local moderator on this site. That's when they decide I need to go out more. So they told me to quit the (expletive) site, and find a girlfriend. So I said that I'd go out for a bit and hang with this girl, which I was all set to do. Then they said, "No, you can't go, we won't let you." I'm 18, they can't legally hold me there, I'm my own man, my own person. I don't have to take it anymore. So I left like I planned. As I was leaving, my step dad told me to get off the bike, because it was "his" bike, that he bought for me. To avoid any further conflict, I just got off, he pushed me back a few times and told me to get off his (expletive) land. So instead of biking the 15 miles, an easy task, I had to run it. I still made it on time somehow, but I was dead tired. The girl knew the whole story, and we hung out as planned.

Eventually, my parents begged me to come home, because they didn't want me to die or anything. I didn't plan on dying, and I was not in any real danger, I know my way around the area, and I'm a lot more resourceful than my parents or anyone give me credit for. I could easily survive a week on the streets, although anything past that would need to be seen or you wouldn't believe me. I agreed to come home though, because I didn't need them more upset. So when I finally got home, I sat down in my "room" (living room), and they told me the news I didn't want to hear. They are forcing me to go live in New Hampshire with my grandmother. I love her and everything, and I'd be more free there. One problem... I have NOTHING down there and I have to start over. Again. For like the 7th time in my life. I don't want to start over again, I'm too old to really make new friends, so I feel like all this will do is depress me more. At least here I know who my friends are.

So I guess this is goodbye to Maine. Goodbye to everything I knew again.

I will still be on Vizzed, and actually, I'l probably be online MORE often. So I wll still be here, and I will still be working hard. My life may be a mess right now, but whose isn't? I'll be sure to update people as this goes on. I hope everything works out, lately as all my friends here know, I've been going through a tough time, and this doesn't make it any easier. I may not believe in much, but all I can do, is believe in myself. I may never be happy now, I'm willing to face that. Not because I want to, but because I have to. And that's what being an adult is really all about. It took getting thrown out of my house to realize, but now I know, "Do what you need to do, then what you want to do".

Well I guess this is how things had to be. I don't expect a ton of comments on this thread. I expect most of the comments to be personal and private. If you wish, I would ask you comment here. See you all on the flip side, hopefully I can still be the same person you all know.

Don't really know you all that well yet, but I've been there myself, and yeah, it can be rough. I had to start over so many times I began to wonder who the heck I actually was. You're in my thoughts and prayers, pal, hang in there.

Cyprian :

The scariest part about this, is now I am 18 and being forced to be almost completely independent. It sucks but it's life I guess. Thanks for the prayers, it's not in my religous beliefs to pray, but it means a lot that I am being thought about.

That's awful! You're 18, they can't legally force you to do anything, they don't own you like they did a year ago. They should have at least given you some time to do what you want to do, instead of moving you away from your home town, into your grandmother's arms. I feel sad for you. It'll get better.

alexanyways :

That's what I said, I live in an authoritarian household, where it is their house, their rules. Which is understandable, as long as it doesn't get to the point where I don't have a life. I did not have a life anymore, so I decided it was for the best to stand up for that, because I did, I have been kicked out. Things WILL get better, they can't get worse after all.

I.... I really don't know what to say... don't know HOW to say anything about that except I'm sorry legacy... I'm SO sorry.... I am 12, so I don't know what that's like....

legacyme3 : Don't worry man, things will work out somehow. We all (on vizzed) have your back.

That really sucks Legacy, I hope that everything will work itself out though because your a good guy and from what I know about you, you don't deserve to be thrown around like that. Make sure to keep me updated on how things are going.

On a side note, if your 18 and you aren't up for the task of your parents orcing you around then why don't you just get an apartment with a friend or something, I'm sure that wouldn't be too hard (depending on where you live I guess).

Dude, that really sucks man. I sincerely hope that everything turns out okay in your life. It really sucks that you were thrown out the way you were thrown out

Keep us updated

WOW. I feel for you. I in a sense understand what you are going through. For 14 years of my life, I was inprisoned. I wasn't allowed any kind of contact with anyone. No friends, not even with family. I was abused and treated like a slave. Yes by my own father. My Mom and siblings were treated the same way. Finally, my mother had enough, kicked him out and divorced him. We had to start our lives over from stratch. I was 14, and I never had a life before. I didn't think I would ever be able to make friends or even be able to talk to anyone. I had a severe depression and was often suicidal. Finally at age 17 I had enough. I sought some help. I am now 29, it was a long road and a battle. But things eventually turned out pretty great. I am definitely independant, and I vowed to never allow myself to be a prisoner again.

The amount of time for things to get better are different for everyone. Unfortunately for me it took years to get past all the bad things. I am hoping and definitely praying it won't be that long for you. I know you don't know me personally, but I am here if you need a friend, some advice or just a listening ear. Things will get better, I promise. Just takes some time. There is hope, speaking from experience, I know it will happen for you.

SunflowerGaming : Wow, that's sad. If I were you I would've killed my dad if he did that to me. Seriously.

Anyway leggy, I hope you'll be OK and everything turns out well in the end.

jmc - Oh I came close, but I am glad I didn't. Then I would've gone from one prison to another. I'd rather have him in jail where he belongs that me.

legacyme3 : I personally know what you have been through because this like just happened to me. I did not have to face my parents but I did have to face my self. I really had to see who I really was. I had to stop F***ing around and get my self in gear. Between my job and school work I know what it feels like. Except I did not and still do not really have time to be on here any more. Luckily I am in a sunny place where any thing can happen. I hope that you can find some new friends like I did, or get a job and work until your dead tired and then get a better life.

legacyme3 : wow man... that really sucks. they told you to go out and you got kicked out for that. damn, atleast you'll get freedom like you said.
all of us at Vizzed are here for you. Hope everything gets better

It sucks to hear that man... Well, I have nothing to say except that you should focus on life, and not so much on Vizzed if life is turning out even worse. I hope that things will get better for you.

Leggy... you already told me about this, but I think I should post here.

That, well, sucks. Can't say I've ever been in that kind of situation though. I have a pretty easy life (at home at least), even if my family is kinda strict. I'm just glad that I am allowed to be at least somewhat independent. And yes, like you, I've been yelled at for spending too much time on this site. I love it though.

Anyways, good luck, man. You should totally move over to Portland though.

Alright, we got an update.

So, for now, things have cooled down, the parents have invited me back. I will stay here for now, but if something like this happens again I am leaving. I am perfectly fine with that. Anyway...

Apparently this is all my fault, because I have depression? I didn't wuite get that, but because of a chemical imbalance in my brain I jump to making these "bad" decisions, and as a result end up doing stupid things like getting kicked out of the house.

For now, it seems like the mess is over, although I don't know for how long.

Anyway, thanks everyone for being here for me, things are somewhat back to normal, and I have started taking medication, so hopefully everything ill go back to completely normal...

My parents seem to think my problem is the lack of a real life girlfriend close by, to which I laughed at them and told them I'm not cool enough for one of those. Hell, if I ever get into a real relationship and get married, it will be a miracle. Then they said it was my lack of a social life, to which I said, can't be, because I have tons of friends, even if I can never see them.

The point is, they are blaming everything but themselves, which is the problem. Hopefully with this chance I am giving my parents, they will use it right and learn what they did wrong. Peace out guys, thanks for reading.

legacyme3 : That's good. Yeah, It's always good to hear something as bad as what happened to you get resloved.

Parents try too hard to make their kids into what they think their kids should be rather than guiding them into becoming whatever the kid wants to be. There is a difference between holding the steering wheel and giving directions. At 18 the only thing they should be doing is suggesting a direction to go.... and maybe helping you avoid the obvious pitfalls of life... but beyond that the mistakes are now yours to make.

geeogree :

My thoughts exactly, I couldn't agree more, I mean, I am not going to try to make mistakes, but we all know I will at some point. I need my parents to get out of the driver's seat, there isn't enough room for three of us in my seat. They can finally kick back and enjoy the ride. Hopefully I don't get in a car crash.