Hello everyone, just thought this would be an interesting little question to ask people on this forum, and see how people are in a psychological, and sociological aspect. But anyways enough of my ramblings. Here is the question: You hear a knock at the door, when you open the door, your ex is standing there crying with three odd observations you happen to notice right off the bat, 1. A picture of someone, could be a friend or something more, but you notice its a picture of a guy, and a girl together, which that girl is not your ex in that picture, or if your a girl that guy is not your ex in the picture. But the other person in that picture you have no idea who that person is. 2. An envelope in your ex's hand, but what's strange is it's unopen. And finally 3. His or hers hair is all messed up like not just a little, but hay wire, and frizzy all over. So after viewing these three things, and finally being able to comprehend that your ex is standing at your door crying his or her eyes out, what is your first thought that races through your head?

Lycan212 : oh god what did i do 

Well, there is a problem with this, because my answer...."depends".
What it depends on is the ex. I would put these odd things together, and compare it to what I know about this particular ex.
What types of things is she into, what upsets here, how did we leave off (meaning, is it surprising she comes to me)
I know it sounds nit picky, but it's really how I would have to do it with that situation.

If I were to say my most recent ex, the first thought through my head would be new boyfriend troubles.
The reason for this is the fact that she often brings guy troubles to me.

This is a neat question. I'm unsure if I'm answering this completely correctly but here goes something.
To be perfectly honest I would assume one of our mutual friends had ran off without letting anyone know or had killed themselves. I see no other actual reason he would cry over something, he's only cried once since I'd known him and it was while he was telling me about a friend he was close to that had hung himself. It would have to be someone mutually known though, I wouldn't exactly be his first source of comfort if it were someone outside our circle.

Sorry if this isn't the answer you were looking for, if I did it wrong or if it's inappropriate in any way. If it is, let me know and I'll edit it.

styrofoamboots : Hello very profound answer, really it's just an observation question, there is no right or wrong answer. It's just what the individual thinks of, and like kind of like an ink blot test, I have a bunch of crazy wacky questions like that, it doesn't help either that I take psychology ha! Oh an no bias either on my side either whatever the individual answer my response to the individual will always be a very thought comment. Very interesting, yet sad post though. Sorry about the friend that hung themselves.  

Lycan212 : i would probobly stand there for a bit and things would race through my mind i don't really handle preasure or stress well so i dunno but i would eventually pick up the letter and read it

Considering I haven't dated anyone in the past 15 years, I'd be confused, safe to say.  I also had perfectly fine relationships with the few girls I did date back in the day and I'm sure anything they bring me or if they show up, it's nothing I've done.  I'd be happy to invite them in, offer them something to drink, and I'd listen to what they have going on.

The first thought that would race through my head was, "Are you okay and what can I do to help?"  That'd be it.  And I'd say that and let them take over the conversation.

kirbmanboggle : Good answer, yea tense situations can be tough to handle, also sometimes the best thing to do with such a situation is to observe, and be silence. Because then you can get a good grasp of the situation, and offer really good advice. 

warmaker : I like that you would offer your help even to someone who you haven't seen in a while, and sometimes a person who you haven't seen in a while can offer the best advice, than someone they see every day. As an old saying goes friends don't leave, if you haven't seen a friend in a  while, if they are true friends then that friendship would pick up exactly where it left off, after all those years.

Lycan212

Well given that my ex and I ended on rather...ugly terms I'm not sure how I would feel about it.

In the moment I think I would be shocked, especially because we haven't seen each other since 2011. Then I'd wonder how he figured out where I lived, and that I was home at the present time. Then again I also know it could be completely coincidence. 

Afterwards I'd probably shut the door in his face. Not going to lie. We ended on things pretty badly and I really don't want anything to do with him. And I know he feels the same. 

I would feel bad afterwards, however, and probably shoot him a message or something apologizing but other than that I'd leave it as is. 

Sincerely_Chris : Oh I'm sorry to hear that, but that is nice though even if you and him did not end to well you would still text him telling him that you are sorry for the negative outcome, I am glad that there are still caring people like you out there in the world. Also with him showing up there would definitely be an air of mystery of why he is there whether it be bad or good. 

First, I'd wonder how I can have an ex, If I've never been in an actual relationship or anything.

Second off, I'd just ask what's wrong, and try to help her/him.

maguc : Very intriguing, and you never know a surprise lies behind every corner, no one can really ever tell if and when the girl or guy of their dreams will be standing at their door, or bump into them least expecting it. Crazier things have been known to happen.