It's interesting, in my last relationship, we lasted for 2 years, and never once had an argument. Not once. We never fought. Or anything, and if it was an argument it was a playful one. And when we broke up? We both agreed on it, and talked it over and we didn't have a problem with. Does that mean her and I are still friends? No. I still care about her so it's to difficult trying to be friends with a girl that I would see with her new boyfriend. So I pull myself away from that.
What am I trying to say?
Well when we were together, we never listened to drama, we stuck to ourselves. Yes we still hung out with people, and people still talked there crap, but we never allowed it to get into our relationship. We communicated. Something bothering us? We talked about it. We were honest with each other. I honestly think the worse thing we ever had was, another guy was flirting with her, and of course as a man, I reacted the way I did, and went nuts. But we talked about it and had communication.
Another thing is, we gave each other personal time. Although we didn't live together, we still saw each other everyday. For the first year, we worked at the same place. The second year, she pretty much lived with me (but didn't). So still seeing each other everyday, we managed to give each other our own space. When we needed to clear our head or what not. We still communicated, but gave time to each other. Difficult to explain.
Last, we had a small saying we always told each other, and believed it with every last word. "Trust, Respect, Communication". It was our saying.
I hope this helps. But people believe what they want, and that's how it is. We can't change how people think, but we can change how we think. And if you believe for the better. Then nothing can come at you.
It's interesting, in my last relationship, we lasted for 2 years, and never once had an argument. Not once. We never fought. Or anything, and if it was an argument it was a playful one. And when we broke up? We both agreed on it, and talked it over and we didn't have a problem with. Does that mean her and I are still friends? No. I still care about her so it's to difficult trying to be friends with a girl that I would see with her new boyfriend. So I pull myself away from that.
What am I trying to say?
Well when we were together, we never listened to drama, we stuck to ourselves. Yes we still hung out with people, and people still talked there crap, but we never allowed it to get into our relationship. We communicated. Something bothering us? We talked about it. We were honest with each other. I honestly think the worse thing we ever had was, another guy was flirting with her, and of course as a man, I reacted the way I did, and went nuts. But we talked about it and had communication.
Another thing is, we gave each other personal time. Although we didn't live together, we still saw each other everyday. For the first year, we worked at the same place. The second year, she pretty much lived with me (but didn't). So still seeing each other everyday, we managed to give each other our own space. When we needed to clear our head or what not. We still communicated, but gave time to each other. Difficult to explain.
Last, we had a small saying we always told each other, and believed it with every last word. "Trust, Respect, Communication". It was our saying.
I hope this helps. But people believe what they want, and that's how it is. We can't change how people think, but we can change how we think. And if you believe for the better. Then nothing can come at you.