So my buddies and I are kinda drifting apart, and we're gonna talk to each other tomorrow about it. As in, heart to heart talk where we must say our feelings and opinions and stuff... to each other. And I don't know what I'm gonna say. This week really stressed me out...

So lets say, my friends' name are A, B and C. I like A and B, totally. I treat them as my sisters. And they're definitely my best and true friends. C is more like a good friend, but nothing more than that, unlike A and B.

I admit I'm unfair because I have favoritism...

I became close first to A, next to B. So I grew closer to A. We walk together, sit beside each other, chat or call each other every night ( until we fall asleep),from right after we go home from school. Basically speaking, my 65 percent of time in school is spent with letter A.

Letter B gets 20 percent of my time. She's fun to be with, and definitely a sweet girl.

Well, they're both sweet and cuddly, but in a different way compared to one another.

15 percent is spent with them as a group, the four of us together.


*Ahem, so any advice? What should I do?

I am in the same situation as you are with your friends like in A, B and C.

Anyway, I think that you should listen to what the others have to say, tell them what you really think like you did in your post, and see together with your friends what you can do about it.

Also, I don't think that its favoritism that you consider C as only a good friend. Maybe it's because you don't spend a lot of time with each other as much as you spend time with A, because you are with A at school and phone each other too, but it's not the same case with C.

Hope this helped you a bit and good luck for tomorrow.

PS.: Don't be afraid to tell them what you really think .

MangaGirl8 : Thanks a lot. Though I'm not sure how to do it without hurting their feelings ( especially letter C's ) and making matters worse, we may even end up as enemies...

Letter C and B are best friends since childhood by the way.

Definitely take the advice MangaGirl8 said. When you have heart to heart talks feelings do get hurt, but if you're good enough friends then you'll be able to talk it through and be fine. I have heart to heart with my best friends all the time and in the end we get the advice or point across and take it or not. Tonight my best friend [1(a girl) of the 2 (a guy)] the girl. I talk to her about how she dressed because she recently has 2 stalkers call her. I felt that it was the way she dressed (low cut shirts and short shorts) I talked to her about it. I felt awkward but in the end she respected what I had to say and the rest of the night went smoothly. She didn't take the advice to change how she dressed but she didn't hate me for it because she is my best friend. With the guy I talk to him about him smokin' weed. He fought me on it, it was awkward as well. He didn't take that advice but since we are best friends we are still cool. All in all, real friends can take hurtful words from each other as long as the hurtful words aren't meant to push them away.

Just because you might be drifting from good friends doesn't mean your friendship is lost. I myself all the time hit up old good friends and since we were good friends getting together here and there happens no problem and it's like you've never drifted apart.

Sorry if the stuff I said was jumbled and what not, it's late and i've been doin late night homework haha. Hope you can make some sense of it for your own personal mental use.

Cookieman : Lol, don't worry. Atleast I got your point.

Thanks for the advice.

Ok ladies, hears my say- Be like guys. Yes, like men. Just agree to have each others back and to always be bros, or sis's in this matter. And if you're drifting apart from your good friends, whos fualt is that? Their fualt? Your fault, or are you just all being d-bags to one another?

*sigh* I wish I had been online this morning
We could have talk about it thoroughly, as always,lol

I thought that you should have done this, long time ago(but I know that you didn't like my idea,lol). Well, because I know a few more things about it(compared to the other members), I think that you should leave "A" to start the conversation(because of her feelings, at least a few days ago). This might help her to get over it. And return back to normal

I think that if you're very close friends(and I know you're, especially with "A", and you used to be with "B" for long time), this conversation might help you all to find out why everything went wrong the last weeks. But I told you already that I don't like C's behavior at all(remember what she said and did!). I couldn't be still friendly with her

I hope I didn't messes up the letters with the real people that I have in mind,lol

Anyway, unfortunately, I'll be probably very very busy for a couple of mornings with university issues, but when I'll finish, I can't wait to hear what finally happened and how things are going

Oh and btw cool layout

Yeah...I think it would be easier to give advice if I knew the situation. My bad.

Juliet : Well, I use to have a lot of friends when I was in school… It’s natural that you become closer with some than you do with others it could be based on similar interest and or environment but it’s natural that you develop friendships with people. It is also natural that when environments change that some friendships might change with it.

The best advice that I can give you is to be up front and honest with your friends and tell them how your feeling. From my experience, most of the group of people I hung out with in school whom I was close with some of the friends I had at the end of the day turned out to be acquaintances. Obviously other things factored into it but the best thing you can do is to be honest about how your feeling.

School can be very tough on you and what ever relationships you may have. When I went into high school most of the friendships I had going in quickly disintegrated for one reason or another. I think it probably had a lot to do with the environment change and or some of the friends that I had at the time wanting to fit in. Unfortunately some of those friendships I had didn’t last but there were a few people I remained close with even after I left school.

What I learned from it pretty much is that a friend really doesn’t prove their a real friend until you go through a rough period that tests the friendship.

What ever is a challenge for you in your relationship with your friends as I said the best thing to do is be up front and tell them how your feeling and see how their feeling.


Good luck to you.

We haven't been able to talk to one another. But letter A and I are now alright. I didn't explain and I just said sorry, but I know she already knew the reason, then she said sorry as well. After that, she hugged me. Boy I missed the hug, and of course, her.

And now I'm done with letter B and C. I'm tired of giving them chances. If they can't love A and I as much as we love them, then so be it. And I'm tired of them hurting A. You see, before I met A, those 3 are already good friends. They met each other 3 years ago. Then let's say they left letter A ( She really got hurt because she treated B and C as her best friends). And then I met her, became good friends. Then when letter B's mom died, we ( 4 us) became close.

Now it seems like B and C are being idiots again. Calling A and I their best friends but it's different from what they're showing.

Yeah, I'm hurt as well, but not as deep as A.

My goal at the moment?

To make A feel that she didn't lose good friends because those two aren't good friends in the first place. That it's not her fault ( because she thinks it is). That she's not alone even though B and C aren't with her and she doesn't need them, because I'm here.

At least it seems your still friends with the one who was truly your friend, I know it sounds cliche, but people change and it sounds like B and C have and not for the better. One true friend is better than two who (from what i'm reading) don't seem to be acting like friends.

In my mind, this story had a "happy ending"! Because now you're very close with the A person, and I think that was the most important goal.
As long as the other 2, I wouldn't care about them that much. They weren't very good friends anyway.
And don't dare to leave A,lol. She's very cool and she needs you now more than anyone else