I don't really have trust issues now but I used to have trust issues for quite a few people in my school. I couldn't understand why they were jerks to a lot of people but nice to me and I couldn't trust them. But now I can trust people like that if they aren't asking me personal questions and clearly trying to get more info about me so they can tell their friends.

Yes and no, because I can grow to trust people really quickly but during the time before that, not at all. One example is this kid from class, I'm taking him to comic con for a day and he wants to split his ticket with his other friend for half a day. I dont really trust his friend because he might run off with the ticket or anything, even though he already knows he has to pay $100 for it, I still don't trust him. Yet on the other hand, I'm good friends with the kid from clas to the point of taking him to comic con after knowing him for just 5 days.

Trust is a very broad word. If it is "telling secrets you do not want to be revealed" then I do not have trust issues. My husband is a very trustworthy person and we tell each other about our worries and our weaknesses all the time. This definitely helped our relationship since he can therefore looks for way to better his weaknesses. My mother too is a trustworthy person. I can tell her things I would not tell my father because of this highly unpredictable mood.

But when it comes to trusting someone as in relying on them, I prefer to keep my distances. I have been a lone wolf pretty much all my life and got bullied often. I can count my REAL friends on one hand...

Meh... I guess you could say I do but it really depends... I mean I trust my mom and my boyfriend and a (few friends) but that's about it lol... people have become so untrustworthy in this day in time. It's actually quite sad.

I wouldn't say I have trust issues, I'm don't tell a bunch of people secrets or nothing, but I wouldn't say that I don't trust people. I trust my family and friends.

Bintsy : THAT level of trust is something built up from a long and steady relationship (family, love, friendship). I once did an exchange trip for NINE months, and during one workshop we had to right strengths and weaknesses for ALL participants. This helped me realize some of my shortcomings and the trip just got better from that point on. We would simply say at each other's face what annoys us.

janus : Well yeah but still.. other than the ' level of trust' that I built up with these people ... it's hard to trust other people unless you have that built up relationship with family or friends or somebody you love.

Yes, yes I do.

I have social problems too ,as I get nervous around people in the real world.

It would take a while for me to trust somebody, I'd have to really know em and make sure they wouldn't stab me in the back.
That's my number 1 rule if anybody expects me to trust them.

SuperCrash64 : It should be for anyone, really. Before opening up to someone, you need to be absolutely sure that it will not make you vulnerable before them.

I'm quite shy around new people so I guess you could say that I don't trust people that easily. Not that I think everyone is going to betray me or some crazy stuff like that but I like to do things by myself as much as I can.

I think me and everyone around me have trust issues. I've had one too many friends quickly abandon me for someone that was Socially acceptable for them to be with. I don't think it helps I was once put on a hit-list in junior high by people I thought I was close to. That was a fun call to receive from the police.

So yeah. Maybe just a little. And anyone who's had bully problems and been ignored probably will have trust issues no matter what the size. 

oh yeah i have trust issues i can't trust anybody not even my friends

It is sad to read about all the issues with trust.  Can we all realize that every human is different and the first five people you meet aren't like the next five people you meet?

I don't have a problem trusting people.  Obviously I'm not going to hand my kid over to the homeless guy strung out on meth but for the most part the people I associate with and talk to are nice people and they can be relied upon for whatever situation is going on.

It's simple.  I stay away from people I can tell aren't that good.  I'm lucky in that I'm empathetic enough or I have a nice, high emotional quotient so I can quickly understand a person by the way they talk, their body language, and so on.  I know who's worth my time and who's not.

And I trust all the people worth my time.

Ghostbear1111 : From what I gathered from the posts (and I am personally like that too) most people are like that: they trust people who have earned it. I guess that understanding body language would help a lot at "reading" people, indeed. Do you have any tricks I can subtly look for?

linklink : no one AT ALL? That must be pretty sad . At least try your family members; during my teens they were the only people with me. I probably did not give them enough credit for it. I remember a cousin of my father's at my wedding; she told me that "I believed, when you were a teen, that when you fully accept yourself (I am gay) you will accomplish great things." You might not see that, but it IS there, in the shadows.

janus : can't even trust my family i'm in the same boat as you i am gay too

I'm so trusting usually it's stupid. Not with like a salesman or anything, but regular people I meet. I basically always trust everyone until they screw me over. I just can't help it. Then, I'll forgive almost anything. Pushover I am. Example: I rent a duplex. I have since April 2009. I live in one half and sublet the other half. I'm on my fourth tenant, my ex-brother-in-law. Of the first three, the first one skipped out on his lease after five months. My fiancee knew him from her work. The second was a friend of mine. Thanks to his non-payment of the electrical bill that was in my name all winter the first day of spring our power got cut. Took a week to get it back and $100 worth of spoiled food in my fridge. So then I agreed to let him move in a roommate to help him pay bills. That wasn't enough. So he moved in another. At one time I had five people living in a two-bedroom on the other side and still not paying rent on time. they eventually moved out after I got fed up and gave them a five day notice to pay. So THEN, I smartened up and charged an actual security deposit to my next renter. A woman I knew from high school who was a single mom with 2 kids. By this time me and my ex had split as well so yeah, I gave it some thought. First four or five months were great until she got back together with her ex and baby daddy. Apparently she could become quite the hard core alcoholic and it went down hill fast. By the time I actually got her evicted I figured I was down about three grand. Sued her for $2400 I could prove, got awarded barely half of that. Of course I've never seen a cent. So now I rent to my ex's brother and his wife. They're ok. Eric knows not to tick me off and when to stay away. lol.

I find it hard to generally just anyone, without knowing them first. Trust is something that you have to earn. I find that it's generally not a good practice just to blindly trust everyone you meet. Anytime I've personally done so, I usually got burned.

linklink : It is terrible. You HAVE to find some people to relate to or else things might turn sour - they also had for me. If you are in a large city, there should be an LGBT center which are always safe for people to go and find an ear to talk to. Otherwise, you can use the Internet and find such resources (carefully; googling "gay" usually yields... undesirable results when looking for help). I collaborated with such a center once, and their safe haven would have been useful for me in my teens.

janus : there isn't anything like that here in australia as far as i know and i honestly don't care

I like how some people are like "Oh I have trust issues because the whole world is against me" so edgy and dark guys, glad your emo "I hate the world" phase is going strong.

Well, you see, I am a very open person. I don't really have secrets of my own, besides a few small ones. Now, I'm not saying I introduce myself to a person telling them every single thing about myself, but it doesn't take long for me to open up and be trusting of a person. Granted, I don't speak to many people, so that might have something to do with it.

I do have trust issues on compliments on myself, though. Growing up as the fat, ugly kid with no real talents has made me go into this mentality that every time someone compliments me they're doing it as a joke or out of pity, even to this day. I'm no longer fat or ug- well I'm not fat anymore, and I have some small bit of talent here and there, but I still think that same thing out of years and years of just neglect and even a bit of bullying.

But besides compliments, I feel like I don't really have a problem with trust. I'm not too over-trusting (or at least don't think so) but I'm also not a stone cold wall that doesn't open to anyone.